tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6226269873507053740.post8564485872250359886..comments2024-03-29T05:22:26.118-04:00Comments on Daffey Thoughts: What Sandy Hook taught usDavid Griffeyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06629314279592541401noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6226269873507053740.post-8486980784493191612022-12-19T09:11:20.496-05:002022-12-19T09:11:20.496-05:00Yup! But I also find that people are not willing t...Yup! But I also find that people are not willing to make the sacrifices of material comfort either to make it possible for a mom to stay home. I'm often weirdly surprised by how many people I meet where one spouse alone makes more than my household, but they definitely couldn't afford to have another child because... lifestyle considerations! <br /> Also, the value of domesticity has been lost by both women AND men. Women still retain an innate sense of it on some level, but there's still confusion about what kind of value you put on it. Most women only see their economic contribution to domesticity as having value. And it's not helped by the guys. I've seen a LOT of guys be really uncomfortable with their wives not working for a time for whatever reason. And as soon as they go back to work the wives are seen again as equal partners. We certainly don't value hearth and home as we should. Bernadettenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6226269873507053740.post-20613004958722282652022-12-19T07:36:48.367-05:002022-12-19T07:36:48.367-05:00When you consider the failed promises of post-war ...When you consider the failed promises of post-war liberalism, that is certainly one of them. I remember an economist who pointed out some years ago that one reason for stagnant wages (one, not the only) was both parents working. Companies had to pay less knowing that two incomes, rather than one, was becoming the norm. The irony? When I was in school, a big mantra I heard from feminists was that women no longer had to 'marry for money.' They made their own money and could be independent. And yet now, if you want to stay home and be a stay at home mom, your only hope is to marry a man with lots of money! If you don't, then like it or not, you'll be in the workplace. Which then means those moms who are at home and involved in things are more and more often than not well to do moms whose husbands have big incomes. So that while my mom was hardly rich, she would do things in the schools and communities alongside doctors' wives, lawyers' wives and such. And yet today, my mom would likely have to work, leaving the 'community involvement' to those women of higher means. So seldom do changes yield what they promise. David Griffeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06629314279592541401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6226269873507053740.post-46156387558473113242022-12-18T08:09:31.924-05:002022-12-18T08:09:31.924-05:00That NPR story was SAD. But it kind of highlights ...That NPR story was SAD. But it kind of highlights that most of society doesn’t know how to process evil or tragedy. I’d have a hard time if something like this happened to my child too, but the poor dad lost himself in trying to find a physical reason for the killers’ evil and ended up abandoning his other kids. <br />But it points back to your main point: it doesn’t ultimately matter as long as those sacrosanct beliefs aren’t touched on. It doesn’t matter that the killers’ own father abandoned his kid before and after death - the body didn’t get claimed for longer than reasonable, as I recall. He didn’t bear any responsibility for his first family as he’d already moved on with another. But, it was really his “right” to find happiness with someone else so what can we say? “Bad guns! Shame on you!” <br />Anyway, it’s not much different on the feminist front. If you are an educated woman you must carry water for the term feminism, even with whatever modifiers you choose to add, because that’s what you do. Regardless of the reality that feminist ideas have largely burdened the middle and lower classes. No one wants to admit that but it’s true. I’m old enough to see my friends’ regrets, strangers share their own, and the tension in the younger moms’ life is still palpable. They’re on their way to regrets. But... feminism good, or you don’t get accepted into polite society, or something. <br />Bernadettenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6226269873507053740.post-12378868669859007972022-12-17T13:29:36.011-05:002022-12-17T13:29:36.011-05:00Our society could learn that and put it into pract...Our society could learn that and put it into practice. Again, it's clear right now that there is no end to the thousands of lives lost and millions harmed that we'll tolerate rather than ever ask if the problem was our lofty ideas and agendas. David Griffeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06629314279592541401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6226269873507053740.post-57076476248523358792022-12-17T10:16:51.271-05:002022-12-17T10:16:51.271-05:00Yep.
The Navy had a relevant jingle;
“Breathes th...Yep. <br />The Navy had a relevant jingle;<br />“Breathes there a man with soul so dead<br />Who never to himself has said <br />‘What in the h*ll did I do that for?’”David Daviesnoreply@blogger.com